In The Game of Life,
It's Your Turn
In the game
of life, it's your move. It always is.
What are you going to do with it?
The answer to that simple question will reveal your odds of winning, as
well as the degree of
self-mastery you have over your own life.
Winning the game of life - and having true self-mastery - involves a
simple process similar to that involved in playing any other type of
While we have been somewhat seriously studying and
experimenting with herbal aphrodisiacs for some twenty years, our
knowledge and experience in the realm of sexual aromatherapy is severely
limited. It's been more like a hobby to us - a hobby that we can totally
ignore for very long stretches of time. That's about to change once
again as working on this website has reminded us of how fun and
fascinating aromatherapy can be. We include sexual aromatherapy here
first because our relative ignorance on the subject is no reason to
totally leave it out, and secondly, because we just might be able to
steer you in the right direction. Here are a few basics that may save
you a little time in money should you decided to explore sexual
1. There's aromatherapy, and then there's aromatherapy. Technically
speaking, air freshners and scented candles, etc. can be used for a very
basic form of aromatherapy - your brain responding to certain smells.
However, that's like saying artificial flavoring is just as good as the
real food. The same thing basically holds true for some brands of
essential oils. They may smell like the real thing, but that's where any
effectiveness starts and ends. For true aromatherapy, or what some might
call medicinal quality essential oils, you must take pains to insure
that the oils you are buying are 100% pure. Why? Well, for starters,
aromatherapy is not limited just to your sense of smell. Much of it
involves putting the essential oil on your skin where it is absorbed
into your body through the skin - usually through massage - and only
ther highest quality essential oil will do the job right. If you can't
afford a specific floral essence, look for a less expensive essence that
might perform the same job, but don't cheat yourself on quality.
2. While we tend to think of sexual aromatherapy as simply something
that will help set or enhance the mood, there's much more to it than
that. Aromatherapy can be used both to enhance sex and sexuality and to
help combat sexual dysfunction. There are formulas in aromatherapy, for
example, that can enhance orgasms, increase desire or help to eliminate
impotence or frigidity. However, most of these formulas require
application for days, if not weeks, before any benefit may be seen.
3. Most importantly, at least to us, is the simple fact that what works
for you might not work at all on your partner - especially when it comes
to the pure smell. That may seem like a no-brainer, but many
aromatherapy books group all sexually related oils into one huge
category, making no distinction as to whether they are most effective
for men or for women. But, think for a moment. Assuming you are
heterosexual, are you going to be turned on by a smell that has the
sexual odor of someone of the same sex?
Part of the problem here is that most essential oils "casually" smell
great, or at least okay, to both sexes, so there simply doesn't appear
to be any need to distinqish the oils for the sex being targeted.
However, try this simple experiment. After you have bought five or six
essential oils for their sex enhancing properties, close your eyes and
have your partner hold the open bottles beneath your nose one at a time.
You'll likely find yourself being attracted to certain smells because
when focusing directly and solely on the smells you suddenly realize
that some have a smell that for someone reason seem sexually related to
the opposite sex. Odds are, your partner will choose the oils you
You can playfully experiment with essential oils this way, but when it
comes to specific formulas that are aimed at, for example, helping ease
a sexual dysfunction, stick carefully to the formula recommended.
4. To begin a hopefully fun, fascinating and pleasurable experience
exploring the world of sexual aromatherapy, consider starting with some
of these frequently recommended oils:
Note: You'll find that most of the oils we've suggested are some of the
most commonly used oils in aromatherapy for a very wide variety of
purposes. This will help keep your costs down if you'd like to explore
using aromatherapy for other, non-sexual uses.
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